Do we need Father’s Day?

Is Father’s day necessary? If yes, why is it so underrated compared to mother’s day?  Without the man’s sperm there would be no mother, no? So why is it  this day can go unnoticed? If celebrated the dad ends up getting gifts they don’t like or ever use? Why is it so hard to buy gifts for these guys? How many pairs of socks, ties and caps can one guy have?

Men have inherited a system that has no business being in the 21^st Century. Don’t get your boxers in a twist. Men were born to fight, to be soldiers to protect their nation since time in memorial even the Israelites had to pick up swords in order to take over the Promised Land. (I don’t know why guys don’t talk about Joshua because that guy killed many many people; yes men, women, children. Just read Joshua and see) The Romans were even worse, boy children were separated from their mothers between ages 8- 10 years to go train to be soldiers, basically hardening school. This has been passed on for centuries because war is as old as time its self. Our own fathers fought in wars during all the regime changes, some of them were caught in the middle of it, making their children orphans or miss out on raising their own children.

This hardening school of men has led to broken men. Men, who have never hugged their children, never said “I love you” to their children, never read a bed time story to their young ones….why? Because in hardening school there’s no room for “feelings” Emotions will get you killed! Ain’t nobody got time to hold your hand, get up! Move on! Push through! We must win this war.

In here lies the inconsistency of the Hardening School, we are Spirit beings with a Soul in a Body right? At funerals you will hear a lot of May his/her Soul rest in peace.  So we can agree that the common factor here is the SOUL! What is a SOUL? Soul: the principle of life, feeling, thought and actions in humans. The Hebrew word is Nephesh means living being.   Why would you deny your soul any recognition? The hardening school is for the body but what are men taught to feed their souls? What school do they go for that?

I read a quote, “Anyone can be a father, it takes a special man to be called DADDY.”  This so far from the truth. If we call God our Heavenly Father, why wouldn’t we call our earthly Fathers, Father?  A father is the head of a family; he has children (Alive or deceased) where did this Daddy come from? Get this….no one knows but it started in 1400-1500 people believe it started from baby talk dada. (Palm in face emoji) when did we get here??  Your father is your father, Daddy/ dad is slang.  The commandment isn’t honor your “daddy “ and “mother…” I emphasize this because origin of words helps one understand the meaning and use better.  It takes a God fearing man to be a father. This is God’s way of fathering any other way is counterfeit thus daddy creeps in;

• Fathers are their child/children’s first teacher (Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child..) The first word Keilah ever said was Dada, I couldn’t believe it. I had carried her, spent sleepless nights singing her to sleep and her first word was “dada” I was so pissed but then I watched a documentary about baby speech and that’s the easiest sound for them to make. They progress to mama after and so on and so forth. This though I think is God’s way of getting fathers to be ever present like He is in our lives. I have nephew who used to call his mom “Honey” because he heard his father call her that. I know so adorable, they learn from sight, that’s why the verse states, “Train…” training involves action, getting their and showing then later on as they go out to the world they will now practice what they have been trained in. Fathers, this is key. There are many men who never got any training and it shows…

• Fathers demonstrate a good life (2 Corinthians 3:2-3) In this verse Paul is reminding  them that they are the letter of recommendation from Christ, not written in ink on tablets of stone but by the Spirit of the living God on tablets of human hearts. Children like dogs can easily sense people with good hearts. Who you are and how you live is a letter from God to your children that they read every day. Make it a good read
• Fathers provide for the family (1 Timothy 5:8) Chris Rock in one of his stand ups said how kids are ungrateful they don’t thank their fathers for keeping the lights on, the food, the roof over their heads yet they will thank their mothers for dinner, for ironing their clothes etc.  Provide, Provide, Provide has been drummed into them from Hardening school. What happens if you don’t have a job? If your wife is the bread winner? Does that mean you are not a provider?  All men can provide is rent, food, bills that’s all? I found this on twitter….. Be a father who provides more than the material.

• Fathers instill discipline in their children (Proverbs 13:24) He who withholds the rod hates his son.. Imagine that. Not disciplining your children means you hate them. Plain and simple. Stop pushing this on to the mothers. Mothers are nurtures, givers, we are the cushion after you have disciplined. Stop trying to make us bipolar; beat the child then give them a hug (I have done this with Keilah and I don’t like the way it makes me feel after) Fathers love your children discipline them!
• Fathers spend time with their children (Deut 6:6-9) Every Sunday after lunch my dad shares with us a word. This is something he started after my mother passed on. Before that we would have to watch a football game or tennis match (some sort of sport) or go out to a pork joint in order to spend time with him. He has interesting stories so do I but his stories are  “in 1975” kind of stories. I have learnt a lot about his family, Uganda, East African Community, European History etc all from spending time with him. He is a busy man but his Sundays are for his family. Now, Keilah knows every Sunday I have to bring my Bible downstairs so I can read for Grandpa.( how traditions start)
• Fathers have compassion (Psalm 103:13) just as a father loves his children…. We all speak one language LOVE. We grew up with fathers who find it hard to say “I love you” to their children, fathers don’t pass this on. Hug them, tell them, and show them… there’s nothing like a loved child.

• Fathers don’t give up on their kids(Luke 15:20-24) The story of the Prodigal son needs to be made into a blockbuster movie, I don’t know of an old man who sits on the veranda waiting for a son who has basically disowned his own father. That father had HOPE. He was patient, loving, kind, forgiving and a party person! Even after everything the son had done, he went and threw the biggest party that is GENEROSITY galore. This is what a heart of a father looks like.

HAPPY FATHER’S DAY