STILL A MUM.

“I went through something like that!” “it happened to me as well”, words I have heard so often since December 28th 2017. I was puzzled,why didn’t I know about this? Of all the conversations I remember having in my adult life, this one passed me. This one was a secret club, illumanti has nothing on this club.
I decided to write a book about the loss of my daughter (Keitangaza) who was 8months(pre-mature) the journey which is long and winding. I have wanted it to end, so I could stop feeling the pain. Just take me Jesus! Then who would take care of Keishemeza (1st born daughter)? Who would teach and mould her? Who will keep tell her that her dreams are valid? I am STILL A MUM.

Even though I missed out on mothering Keitangaza, I still get to be mummy to Keishemeza and that’s more than enough for me.
The mental break down and ease with which the loss of any child can cause on a mother is something that we need to start talking about. We need to expose it, find solutions to deal with it so that the generations coming after don’t fall in the same trap.

Conversations I have had with ladies who have gone through this experience have all been different but the pain described amongst us is so similar it’s almost like reading from the same script. So is there a cure for this? Is there a way to avoid it? Why does it happen? Am I still a mum? Will my baby go to heaven?All these and more are questions I had, but I didn’t know who to ask. Do I ask my doctor? Counselor? Sister? Pastor? Government? Who do I??

I decided at my pre- book launch to have an open discussion about this have all the above represented. We shall have:
  1. Ms.Pamela Babirukamu(mompreneur)found the secret to work and family life balance.
  2. Mrs.Dora Okuja (African History enthusiast)can go on on about roots,taboos and norms of Africans.
  3. Dr.Emma Okullo(Gynaecologist & Embryologist) gifted as a infertility specialist.
  4. Retired Judge Mary Maitum.
  5. Mr.Geoffrey Kihuguru (CEO Pentad Insurance Services Limited) with over 25years in the Insurance industry.

Let’s get to the bottom of it and find solutions rather than wallowing month after month like our God hasn’t given us wisdom to solve these issues.

Let’s begin the conversation…

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